Maybe I have become a little bit disillusioned with D. I know I have come to a place where I am kinda indifferent to our status. I like where things are with us. There is this expectation and level of commitment that I am okay with, but he is not in my house. I dont know if we will get there but I am ok right now where things are. We talk so much about living together but I think he needs to gain some trust of me and he needs to let go of some of his baggage. Those are his things to work on. On my end, I do have to get my kids sleeping in their own rooms and establish some routine over here. I am really feeling better lately and I see that I have really let go of some things I need to do with the kids. You know when you are just surviving things just get out of sync and not on the right trajectory.
I have noticed myself being little bit more impatient with my kids. I am not sure what is fueling this impatience but I feel it. I feel them draining my energy and my peace from me at times with their nonsense. I am trying hard to be the type of parent that takes time to teach and train children throughout the day but good lord I just dont want to be bothered. Today, the 10 year old wants to open the package that came in the mail. I am trying to teach him how to use the scissors the right was to open the box and not stab himself, I let him do it a few times, then I put my hand on his to guide him and then I just said "move I will do it". And now I feel guilty about that.
Or my daughter whispering things in my ear, most of the time it does not bother me but right about now if she whispers in my ear one more time I swear I am going to lose it.
I have been on the fence wether or not I should fuck the neighbor too. I think part of my impatience is the lack of sex. Even when I dont really want sex my body does feel the tension of not having it. And I dont really want to have sex with the neighbor but in a pinch it will do. It is big and it is good. I probably won't cum but at least my body will feel less tense.
I am moving my office at work. And I had pics of JF on my board in my last office and I took them down and put them in an envelope. I am on the fence if I will put them up again. I love the pictures. They are my favorite pics of him and the kids. There is this one of him holding the youngest as soon as she was born and the light in the picture looks like there is this ray of light shining down from her and it is amazing and I want to look at that everyday. I think if D ever came to my office he would me PISSED. And frankly I can see my co-workers asking me who that is and me being like "oh that is my ex" and that would be weird.
I have been thinking about all the men lately. All the men over the years I have spent some time with have been jumping back in to my stream of thought. I feel like I am trying to decide if anyone has ever made me feel like D does. There are times I just want to call it quits with D and find a nice black man with a good dick and a stable job and who is gentler with me. A man who will spoil me with love and affection and will take care of me sounds amazing. But I can't quite get that fix that D gives me. There is something there that makes all of his nonsense worth it.
We have not talked much this week. His job has not been going as he had hoped. They have been slower than usual and he has not been working every day. I know this is frustrating him but when I call him he is always in the middle of doing something. He is always working on something but it is disheartening that his work is not panning out as we had hoped.
I dont even know where his head is at. He has been a little bit of an asshole this last two weeks. Our last real deep conversation was not great and I am just tired of trying to guess what he is feeling. I keep telling him he just needs to spend some time at my house. He is not doing it though. I dont know what the hesitation is. I am saying spend 2 days down here with me, spend a couple weekends a month. He knows people down here it is not like we have to be stuck together for 2 full days but we have to start spending more time together. I have see him in regular life and he needs to see me in regular life. This will be my next conversation with him, why are you not coming down here for more time? I can not even guess at what he will say about this.