I was out late with my family and had some quiet alone time in the car while I drove. These are the moments that I live for; the quiet times in my life when everything else fades to black and I can use my mind to dive deep into my thoughts. And once I get these times to do this indulgence I always end up here.
I watch a show called "Call the Midwife" on PBS. I have watched all 11 season probably 5 times over by now. I love it. There is this episode where there is a women who is pregnant and in labor but struggling to progress in her labor. The back story is this is her 9th pregnancy and she lost the 8 previous and this is the first child she has carried to term. And so during her long labor the midwife takes her through the process of remembering each pregnancy and talking about each child she named and lost and what hopes she dreams she had for them. And when she had purged all this information, when she had given voice to all the souls she grieved for only then her labor progressed and she was able to have the baby. And she delivered a wonderfully healthy baby.
I am having this experience in my way. As I get my quiet time I am slowing recalling and reliving all the men, all the scenes, all the parties, all the places I have been fucked in all the ways. In my way I am on my journey of closing a chapter in my life so I can give birth to a new relationship.
Tonight I highlight Ray. I dont know what pseudaname I had given him but tonight in my musings of him I think he deserves more than and initial. I met Ray when he stopped by my house looking for scrap metal. He is Jamaican and so naturally I was intrigued. He is not a particularly strong or muscular man. He is thin and tall. He voice was like a the sound of happiness to me and his dick was uncut. I dont know how we made the move to start seeing each other but it was so nice. He was always gentle and made me feel good. And he was caring. He was always there to help me. When I moved into my home he helped me paint this entire house and he helped me move in. He would spend the night with me sometimes. He is a hard worker. I love a hard worker. If things were different I could have seen myself with him. He is the type of man that I like; hard working and easy going and likes sex. I know I have talked about him before but after I had my son he stayed with me to help me. He helped me more than he could ever understand. Like two new parents we attended to this tiny baby, to which I did not know who the father was at this time. That same week my sister went in to early labor and gave birth to a very tiny sickly baby and my mom was spending a lot of time with her - understandably so. But my support system, my mom and sister, were both gone at a time I needed someone. I dont even think I asked Ray for help. I just remember him showing up for me. I talk with him from time to time. He does not live close to me now. I would like to hug him. After he moved away he did get circumcised. He was the only man I knew that could talk about sex before and after circumcision and he says it is better being circumcised. That surprised me! Maybe there is something to it.
Then as I drove, I past this truck place and B would go there for work and would stop by me and see me. I liked him too. I remember we had some really good conversations. I liked him as a person and I loved the way he hit me. He was so good at the spanking and roughing up. I am going to go ahead and say the best ever in the department. We did not see each other too much. I wish it could have been more. He text a few months ago but by that time I am just a little too far gone with D.
I drove past the Target truck parking lot at the warehouse and I thought of the trucker. Oh the trucker has so much potential. He seems to be all over the place in terms of his life. He is painfully inconsistent and that kind of inconsistency invokes the feeling of risk. I have to mitigate my risks in my kind of lifestyle. It makes me sad because I did like him too.
I like a lot of people. I like the newness of people and getting to know people and I am fascinated about how differently sex goes down with each man. It is never the same thing twice. Each man has their own style about them. I think I have had enough of trying out new dick though. As much dick as I have had nothing has made me happy like D dick makes me. Sometimes new scenes and new places add flair but I am ready - I think- to not have to worry about condoms and fear of stds and getting murdered when meeting a random new man.
D sometimes talks about how we only have sex in the bed. And I am like, yeah, I pay a lot of money for this house and the bed is the best place to fuck in it. I feel like I have fucked in so many places, with so many variables and kinks that maybe I did everything that interests me. At least for now. I can't think of a single sex scene that I want to have enough to act on it at this time. There is mild interest but when I think about what if D were to find out a bout it - it becomes quickly unworthy the risk.
Having said all of that, I never delete text messages on my phone and I was going through some all conversations with some random people. I wanted to delete them but I could not bring myself to do it. Like it was some weird insurance policy that if I need random dick at least I have some leads. It is crazy. There is so much thought when it comes to my team of dicks.
I hope these men think of me and remember me for being easy going and friendly and a good fuck. Like I hope that in their quiet moments I might pop into their head and bring a smile to their face.
I spoke to D the today. He called m on his way to work today. I was on the phone with my boss and I put her hold to take his call. I told him I was on the phone with my boss and I just took his call but I was not sure if he wanted anything, in his super smooth voice he say "No I did not want anything, go ahead and do what your doing, I will catch up with you later" It was the perfect amount of conversation for me. It was a check in so I know he is thinking of me, but nothing more was needed. I always felt like I needed a lot from men in relationships but I dont. I just need the right type of attention. I need dick and check in and good conversations in bed after we fuck. Not much. I finally am letting myself figure out what I need vs what society tells we should have or what a relationship should look like.