There has been contact with both D and Fan Boy.
First, Fan Boy, may have told me he was going out of town. I vaguely remember this conversation with him but I did not maybe remember it in the last month. I guess in my mind going out of town does not equal not in contact. Maybe I should learn to be uncontactable, I dont know how people do this. I would be so afraid I would miss something.
Now lets go back to Wednesday. I have been talking to a man. I was drawn to a man I met online who is Jamaican and in his early 50's and I am EXCITED for the possibility of enjoying this man's company. I did not want to really meet anyone but he works close to me and you know I like the way he talks. He has a job, a home, a car, and a cell phone so he is already leaps and bounds ahead of D. He wanted to see me and pressed me a little bit. I was getting irritated and did not want to see him but I was let me just do this, and I can not say "No" to some men.
So we meet at the park, I asked him just to get in my car so we can talk because is was so hot. He is more attractive than his pictures. I like him. We talked politely for a few minutes and I am not sure how but he was touching me and his dick was rock hard and my hands were on it. It is daylight at a park, near where I live. I am not doing anything that I will regret. I love him touching me though. How he is touching me. He tells me how attracted he is to me and I am really loving it. I am attracted to him physically and he can hold intelligent conversation, there is a lot going on here for me. The dicks seems to be good from my cursory inspection but I am not feeling the heat I am looking for. The heat in my pussy, the throbbing, the I must have you now feeling in my body. I dont have it. I dont know why. Am I still broken from D? Is there just a disconnect? I want to have sex with him because he marks all the boxes and he is what I am looking for and him touching me feels really good but why is my body not reacting the way I want it to?
We parted ways and I was at home laying on the couch and he called me. I answered and we were talking a bit. And another call comes in from "No Caller ID", I know this is D. I answer with out hesitation. I say hello and say what's going on? I try to say in a non-bitchy way but I feel like my disdain was oozing out of my words. We talk a minute or two. The things he says are infuriating to me. He firsts asks if he can come over Friday, I say yes. Then I say where you been? He is like here doing nothing, etc. I said why did you not call me? He said he has no phone still and etc, etc...He said he saw the message I sent him in Cash App and I said so you saw that I needed to talk to you and you still did not seek me out? He said something to the affect that he has no money so he cant do anything so that is why he did not call. I told him it is not just about him..."what if I needed you"? He said nothing. It was not a very intense conversation, it may not sound like it but it almost felt like neither one of us wanted to really talk about anything heavy. He did say that things would be changing soon and I asked what that meant and he said we would talk when he sees me, and I said "is it bad"? He laughs and say "No, why do you always assume the worst"? I laugh too because I really do always assume the worst case scenario in every situation. It helps me mentally prepare for that stress that might be coming my way. It is self-preservation. Before we hang up, I said so"Friday, 100% you are coming down", he says "yes 100% I will be there at 9"
So he did not show up. I was ok til about 12n, and then that crippling anxiety creeped into my chest again. He did not call, he did not show and I left to wonder what happened that caused this. It is back to square one again. Was it me? Did he not like something I said? Was he in an accident on the turnpike? The anxiety was so bad, I took 1/2 and edible and tried to get some work done and a few hours later took the other half.
I talked to the Jamaican, we are trying between the two of us to find a time or a place we can meet up. I dont feel guilty. We should call him the replacement because he is inching his way in to being just that.
Part of my anxiety too is will D just show up? All day wondering if he is just running late? Will he just show up tomorrow etc? And he tease of thing changing and telling me he applied of a job down by me are his way of telling me what I want to hear to lure me right back in. It is a trap. I know it is. I dont know if he is congnizant of what he is doing or if he is just ignorant to his own toxic behaviors. I know what I do, at least I am to the point that I know I do some fucked up shit sometimes and I know why I do it.
Tonight I am just trying to stay busy until I can sleep and get rid of this anxiety.